Dating and Love

"EYES OF THE HEART"

2010-06-29T10:53:00.000-07:00

If we look at the world through angry "eyes", we'll find a world that mirrors our expectations---a world where tension will mount, arguments will abound, strife will be present where none, need be. However, our experiences in some manner bless us, and we'll recognize that if our path is meant for our good and we'll see the good, when our hearts act as the "eyes" for our minds.

When we see with our hearts, our responses, to the turmoil around us, the fighting children, the traffic snarls, the angry lovers, will be soft acceptance. When our hearts guide the action, we can accept those things we cannot change, and change those we can. And the heart, as the seat of all wisdom, will always know the difference!

"WHEN LOVE BECKONS"

2010-03-09T15:40:00.000-08:00

There will be many opportunities to express love in the days ahead, & some may be cloaked in harsh wrappings. Perhaps an argument will wound & then be healed by the exchange of loving words & intimate gestures.

Maybe a friend or lover will be called away for a while, & the painful loneliness will make us question our commitment to love. Yet, in loving unconditionally,
we'll find peace!

Love, though a soft word & a gentle image, doesn't always promise us soft, gentle moments. Sometimes love offers us a pained heart & empty arms. We know love comforts, but not always. Love heals, but in its own time. The desire to know love--- draws us together, always!

Enjoy---

"Love is Positive" by: Syd Banks

2010-02-01T15:09:00.000-08:00

LOVE is a positive feeling & if one cultivates this feeling in their life, they will surely free themselves from any unbalanced condition that surrounds them.

No situation or person, however difficult, has the power to steal away our happiness without our passive consent.

Our choices for actions, feelings, or attitudes are far greater than those we habitually turn to. An it's likely we know love least of all. But just as anger breeds more anger, love cultivates more love, and each life that's touched by love profits from it.

When we make a decision to practice love unconditionally---loving ourselves, our neighbors & co-workers, even the snarling strangers sharing our traffic jam, we'll quickly experience the miracle of love in our own lives.

This book published in 1985 called the "The Love Book", -----------
was given to me by a dear friend---that will always be, my best friend---
Shannon

"The Past--- Needs to Stay in The Past"

2009-11-05T05:35:00.000-08:00

Loves of your life-- will always bring strength & character to you! Your past is the past, this is part, of who, you are & you can never change, your past... Anyone in your life needs to realize, its part of your life--and it's not going away!

Past loves have taught me many lessons, ways of the best & the worst----once, you've had the good treatment & the good life--of always being treated like a lady--you will never, go back--- to shit treatment again! I promise you!!!

Opening doors--pulling your chair out--long walks, holding hands--once you've had the good treatment, with all the respect in the world--- your standards go to the upper level.

Take pride & strength from your past.
Live each day---AS--- it is your last.
Shannon

"LOVE---The Little Things"

2009-09-06T06:34:00.000-07:00

WOW!!! I have to tell you this---talking about LOVE--

I have always wanted my very own work bench--(to much like my Dad) To just piddle with some art projects, I have always wanted to make, but no one would ever build me one. Well, now I have one..its great, my special man, Robert has done this, for--- JUST ME!!
It's the best, has electricity, shelves & my very own, tin roof! Can you believe, he put me in shade--that is, how sweet, this man is! I wish I could clone him for others, you would pay for it, if you knew this man---But the special thing, in my art space is; my old sink, of course---I had to drag him, to the junk yard--because its a heavy one---of course, he bought it for me, did not complain of going or dealing with the heavy little bitch--I just can't believe, I actually have, my very own art workspace, he is the sweetest man in town!!!

I love to brag on Robert, you all, can stop throwing up now---LOL---
Shannon

Take CONTROL of Your Dating Choices

2009-08-19T14:27:00.000-07:00

"Newly Single" girls!!
Identify what you want, what your looking for, in advance---
At first, the dating scene can be really overwhelming---I know alot of girls that decide to "Not Date" because, it is such a hassle.(especially if your a single Mom) BUT--- if you know what you want, the shopping, is easier!!

Think what's in a man, that will make you happy??

Evaluate: Morals, Values & Communication Skills---capacity to love, give & feel.
What's Important: His car?? Money?? Friends??(this is a big one!!)

Lets all understand---these standards are for soul mates--keepers--all your choices should share similar understanding of life in general---

Good Luck in your shopping!! Buyer Beware--LOL
Shannon

He's Just "NOT" Into "YOU"----

2009-08-07T08:37:00.000-07:00

He's just not into you----why the hell do we women, NOT pay attention to this! All the signs are always there, we just refuse to open our eyes & see it.
THE LIST IS LONG;
You can't find him---because he doesn't want to be found!
He doesn't call---because he doesn't want to talk to YOU!
Busy is another word for "Asshole", which most men are, sorry guys---
When men say, they don't want a serious relationship---they mean it!
Does he cheat & you know it---but you give him 500 excuses-what's your problem?
Break-ups Suck, but just put your back against the wall & bite the bullet & tell him to go, straight to hell & NEVER look back.
Rejection is hard---how many times will you take it, from the same guy??
Married--just DON'T be that girl!!
Bad Boys--we all want one, but they are poison!
Just want to be friends---the question is?? with benefits or without---

Bottom line is---What do you want?? What will make you happy?? Unless it makes you happy & you have the "FULL CIRCLE" of your life dream...stay away from it---it will only bring heartache & sorrow to YOU in the long haul...because you can NEVER, NEVER, Change Him---so make yourself happy & believe me..that door will open & he will be there & never when you expect it!!
Being single is a different road & the ones that have NEVER been down that single road, will never know what it is truely like. Just like someone being married 60 yrs. I will never know what that is like either.
****If you haven't read the book: "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt & Liz Tuccillo..you have to read it...any girl 14-16 yrs old/up & all SINGLE women should read it...it could save you alot of heartache, it did me.
Shannon...

DATING--Can Be A Bitch!!

2009-07-31T10:21:00.000-07:00

First off, don't beat yourself up over the bad choices you've made in the past. Let all that shit go. We have all made bad choices, one way or another. Just make sure, the choices of who you date in the future, are the right choices. Try to see & understand, be confident & comfortable.

One thing that always, can help & make a differnce. MAKE A LIST---
All the good, bad & ugly... Be Realistic... Take your time...
Have fun making your list, maybe keep a Journal (in a safe, private place)
Be open to all that would make you happy...
Just----NEVER SETTLE----

SHARE your ideas of; How To Make The Right Choices!

See you again soon!
Shannon

2009-07-25T08:52:00.000-07:00

'HOLDING HANDS"

You never get to old to hold hands!!

Holding hands is one of the most intimate experssions of love between two people. Never let this beautiful gesture leave your lives. It has a deep connection within itself.

It requires.....NO WORDS....

To me, when I am holding Robert's hand...I feel loved, safe & complete. Nothing makes me, more proud, as when he reaches...for my hand....

My most favorite time, to hold hands, is laying in bed watching TV...or when we are out, it's a great way to mark "your territory! (You know what I mean)...

*****I welcome all comments....

See you next visit...

Shannon...

What is Love??

2009-07-18T09:02:00.000-07:00

Understanding...
Listening...
Being Happy...
Fun & Laughter...
Holding Hands...
Being together...
Dreaming together...
Quiet Moments...
Times of Sharing...
Spiritual Safety...
Encouragement...
Trust...
and ALWAYS GIVING...

everyone looks at LOVE differently....
Please share, your thoughts on LOVE.
Shannon...